How does one celebrate after a loved one has died? This is a common question posed by the bereaved when they hear suggestions to celebrate the life of the one that passed away.
Celebrating the life of the deceased does not exactly mean having a party and being happy. To celebrate a life lived means to remember with fond memories how the loved one lived his or her life. It is with fond remembrance of the deceased that makes acceptance of death easier.
Thoughtful planning of a funeral or memorial service is the best way to make the celebration of memories worth remembering.
Things to remember before making decisions for the service are:
• This is a time to say goodbye
• This is also the time to pay tribute and give last respects
• The service is about shared sorrows and memories
• It is the best avenue to affirm the faith of the bereaved.
• It provides a time to give support to the members of the family
• It is a gathering to express sympathies and feelings to the group
• The service makes clear the reality of death and gives closure to those who were left behind
Knowing all these things makes planning for the service easier. As much as everybody wants to avoid the pain of making decisions during funeral arrangements, there are things to consider to make everything smooth. This also ensures that the interment holds meaning to all.
Things to Consider When Planning for a Funeral:
Putting into consideration the religious beliefs of the person who died, the members of the family and the majority of those who are expected to be in attendance will make the service meaningful for everyone. This does not mean that spiritual beliefs and symbols are to be done away to make way for the beliefs of others. It means that the service should be planned for the inclusion of all rather than being exclusive. Careful choices regarding food, speech and anecdotes should be top priority.
Other aspects of decision-making
This pertains to things like choices of caskets or just opting for cremation. Each member of the family should have a say in this matter especially if cremation is the choice. Some people are not at ease with cremation. It could be connected with spiritual beliefs. Or it could just be because of lack of information. Requests for scattering of ashes should be decided on carefully. It could be a terrible memory for the members of the family, even if the permission was given by the husband or the wife of the deceased.
Other things to decide on is private or public viewing, open or closed casket. There may be different reasons why a family would make a particular choice but they also have to put in consideration the public who wants to view the deceased.
This will all depend on the chosen funeral home. When deciding on which funeral home to entrust the service, check for the track record. In short, ask around. Talk to some who have gone through memorial services and ask for advice. Consider the space that the memorial home can provide. If you think that the expected attendance is rather big, opt for the one that can provide the space that the family needs. The place should also be scenic and not have too many distractions. It should be a peaceful place that encourages reflection and remembrance.
There are also the legal aspects of dying. Legal papers that need to be prepared like death certificate and other documents should be secured by the home. Getting the preparations of the legal documents out of the family’s hands will give them more time to grieve.
Gentry Griffey Funeral Chapel provides a complete range of Funeral services.From traditional funeral services followed by burial or cremation to the simplest of memorial services.